tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20485287537482762692024-02-07T23:43:26.166-08:00the real deal for gay loveWhere the manosphere tastes the rainbow.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-63926255294858892712019-02-08T11:09:00.004-08:002019-02-08T11:09:49.976-08:00New blogHey guys,<br />
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Miss y'all! Be wellAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-78445628035498839602016-02-03T22:48:00.001-08:002016-02-03T22:49:06.584-08:00The Purpose of Faggots<div style="margin-bottom: 15px !important; margin-top: 0.357142857142857em; padding: 0px;">
<span style="color: #222222; font-family: "verdana" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;"><a href="http://fagmaster.com/the-purpose-of-faggots/">The Purpose of Faggots, video, 1 minute and a few seconds</a></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin: 0px;">TL;DW</span> he says the purpose of faggots is to be owned by a "real man," and that faggots will be lost until they figure this out. "A faggot has no will of its own; only its master has will."</div>
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<span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin: 0px;">TL;DR</span> This could be seen as typical seminar of femme-guy-will-naturally-be-desperate-for-masc-guy; but I see something else too involving Will, meaning, purpose, and our most essential selves. Just not so deep into the shallow end as this guy makes it out to be.</div>
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We often see and talk about attraction as a fun side effect people have that can be taken advantage of. Want to slay? Get muscles. Want to MGTOW from sex/society? Ok cool here are some good essays on entrepreneurship and passive income -- nothing sexual or regarding your essential self or Will are at stake here! Enjoy!</div>
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But what if sexuality goes deeper than that?</div>
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In fact, how can it not? Our passionate wailings, top or bottom, cannot be seen as a mere freaky sideshow from our regular lives. Not to say we should go all out and do it on the streets; that serves no purpose. But what if our personal sexuality didn't just indicate "a lot" about ourselves, but was a blueprint of our most essential selves, and all we are at our most basic and pragmatic?</div>
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Do we manifest, or not? Do we command, or serve? Do we win, or lose? Do we eat our fill, or make sure others' whims are quelled first? This goes a bit beyond the physics of topping and bottoming.</div>
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A devastating breakup with a 'top' can feel like a huge direction in our life is gone and we can feel listless -- like a close relative who was your rock, leaving. When it's a terrible breakup with a 'bottom' where he leaves us for someone better or out of boredom, we hate ourselves and feel our masculinity and self are unworthy, much the same way a straight-RP guy feels when his girl decides to try her luck on someone better than him, like a daughter disowning her father. In both cases the one leaving us is looking for 'better,' but the two sides of the same coin (top leaving, bottom leaving) are crucial to how we feel that pain that sears our entire self, even if it's just for a moment. That pain is largely a litmus test to our connection with our internal power, regarding the <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px;">whole</em> coin.</div>
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If you like more powerful guys (and incidentally are probably a bottom or "faggot" as he calls in the video), you might be psychologically outsourcing a power you can't find in yourself by constantly seeking out these types. In fact he might be right -- you could live your life walking eggshells around a 'real alpha' who gives no fucks about you and you'd be oddly satiated, or at least your psychological wounds that largely turned you out that way would be ok with it. A breakup hurts for many reasons -- how he did it on a voicemail of all places, how it was gradual and you hate him for it, how he was frank/honest/nice but he's still gone. But the visceral pain the dainty guy feels for Chad might have to do with his internalized, lost masculinity that he just grasps in another man and that keeps going away. <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin: 0px;">He has to keep finding it in other men and is thusly a slave; he has low energy on his own and thus craves a 'masculine,' self-ascertained man, or at least the illusion of this.</span></div>
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If you are into smaller guys, I'm not sure how this in itself would indicate a problem, and I'm not exactly fending for myself either by saying it's no problem, as someone who is wacko for jocks. But <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">your relationship with your masculinity is ESSENTIAL with hitting on and sex with bottoms</span> (<a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2015/03/how-to-fuck-guy-like-man-or-every.html" style="color: #0079d3; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; text-decoration: none;">sex and flirting are the same thing</a>). If you've been receiving delicious dick for a few months and decide to try your luck on a twink, tapping into your more manly self and less fluttery archetype can be tough. Going from a daisy to an oak tree is no simple task. A bottom you're fucking's relationship with you may be a good indicator of how in touch with your power you are though. (I'm gonna say "power" there and not "masculinity" because one's masculinity is basically a result of one's internal power, yeah?)</div>
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<span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin: 0px;">Both cases deal with our power and where it is inside us</span> -- how much of it we are in touch with, what we are outsourcing to other guys we want to hang off of because we have Fear regarding what would happen if we were to act on our power, and, when dealing with bottoms when we are tops, we feel how powered up our power is at all.</div>
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My only 'issue' with his message and the rest of the video's website is that it confuses constant sex with a person's fulfillment -- highly suggesting self-actualization, emotional fulfillment, being found in mere fucking. I disagree. His posts on a <a href="http://cumtemple.org/commandments-for-tops/" style="color: #0079d3; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;">top's comandments</a> and a <a href="http://cumtemple.org/bareback-bottom-commandments/" style="color: #0079d3; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; text-decoration: none;">bottom's commandments</a> are very exemplary of the <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/" style="color: #0079d3; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; text-decoration: none;">masculine and feminine polarity I can't stop talking about</a>, but to reduce yourself to a caricature of dominance/submission, in my vanilla opinion, is like reinforcing your dumb habits you're doing anyway instead of aiming for transformation.</div>
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Sex is a huge indicator of how we are managing our lives, how we see power in others, and how powerful we see ourselves. Most of us are probably not sex-obsessed like fagmaster seems to be. But even if we look at our past relationships and categorize them imagistically and with no top/bottom/masc vocabulary (my first boyfriend I opened up to like a best friend, my chads, the times I've been a chad with a twink), we see that our sense of self, our testing of our masculinity, and our testing of our desirability to a masculine/hero counterpart were in play behind the scenes because it is our base nature, regardless of the logistics and details. "Were you master or servant?" as the extreme fagmaster would put it. <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin: 0px;">These feelings of how Potent we are are incredibly important to our animal selves, and there's little we can do about them.</span> If you are secure in your power you may feel these feelings aren't so important or could possibly be optional things to bother oneself wondering about, when in fact it is the very security with oneself that makes this Potency seem so unimportant.</div>
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On the topic of the kind of excessive sex fagmaster promulgates, I'm also incredibly sensitive of cultural Marxism now (and am enough of a tinfoil hat wearer) to know that the sex-show all around us is not incidental and no accident, and that elites win materially and in the long-term by having the population fuck itself into poverty, dependency, and out of existence. This isn't the place to go too deeply into explaining, but this is why I'm very wary of "just let go and bump uglies!" propaganda -- despite my lifestyle :<sup style="font-size: 0.86em; line-height: 0; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">)</sup> -- and urge you to beware of being a <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">total</em> sloot! <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">We are things beyond sex.</span> Sex is the great indicator; we can get primal with sex. But goddamn it isn't everything.</div>
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<span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">That is the paradox:</span> we are greater than beings we identify as animals, many of which are survive-and-reproduce programs, a lot like us but more so. But, to gauge your essence, watch how you fuck, what you want to fuck, what you let fuck you, and why you fuck. Then power-up and improve your life from there. <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">Why aren't you letting yourself own all your power?</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-72793550432366263302016-01-08T10:40:00.002-08:002016-01-08T10:40:25.743-08:00New Political BlogI'll still be posting here about gay sex/dating stuff, but I have a new political blog called <a href="http://exposingleftism.blogspot.com/">Exposing Leftism</a>. Hope you enjoy.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-15382664577224259782015-09-23T07:55:00.001-07:002015-09-23T07:55:45.039-07:00How do gay men get motivated and thrive like straight men if competition for gay sex is minimal?<div style="color: #222222; font-family: verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.42857142857143em; margin-bottom: 15px !important; padding: 0px;">
Men have invented the modern world because they have had to compete to become the Best Male in order to get laid...by the hypergamous and selective woman. Let the games begin. And if you get burned, play harder.</div>
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While gay men are arguably as disposable as straight men (more disposable if you're thinking discrimination, less disposable if you're thinking gay-worship in the media), getting laid for a gay guy is not the hardest thing nowadays. And we here who know the wisdom of disposing oneitis and not "improving myself for him so he gets interested again" (due to the neuroticism it causes and the lack of practicality of postulating our old flames will rekindle)...we have a leg up on romance, but that might be our falling. We don't compete for sex and we know better than to give our hearts to the first bidder (or any bidder if we can help it), so what's our biological kick to ass-kick?</div>
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I figure that the big motivator for gays is often shame. Even if they're not being shamed now that high school's over (it got better!), the feeling is still there, or the personality pattern of achievement and taking the other bitches out of the competition remains. Dad isn't thrilled about your ball-throwing abilities, but he thinks that science fair prize (or standing ovation in a theater) is pretty dank!</div>
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After TRP taught me what my oneitis was and why I should cast it aside, I've still had motivation to plunder on in my career and self-analysis, turning new rocks, making new friends, self-discoveries and ideological leaps, but I have recently been struck by the notion that I don't have the "sexual" or "romantic" motivations that <a href="http://sacred-texts.com/nth/tgr/tgr16.htm" style="color: #0079d3; margin: 0px; text-decoration: none;">so famously</a> drive men to change the world. And coming from our consumerist world-culture, we can look at this and find the audacity to say "hey, I want that."</div>
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I suspect masculine-top gays may psych themselves into running more game, out of necessity or because they initiate more, and thus they are constantly in 'competition mode' or 'all in or nothing whether I get rejected or not', thus driving them to become more worthy men, whereas more feminine bottoms may have gone off of their looks and used clumsier game, coming off at best as endearing during flirtations but regardless not finding sex to be a rare commodity.</div>
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I've also noticed that high-status men have hit on me and even become romantically interested when I play it right, but I suspect it doesn't have to do with my super-masc-alpha-dude status, nor does their interest affect my status <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px;">in the male hierarchy.</em> It is like being the female of the group; the status is by no means automatically lower, but the standards are so different that lining up a who's-who hierarchy of males and females is a headache. In courting, the masculine counterpart's status matters but not necessarily the feminine's.</div>
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This could entirely be the problem of bottoms. Much like feminism has taught women to go for career and status, when this in fact makes them unsatisfied romantically and sexually, maybe bottoms aren't meant to change the world like their more masculine gay lovers. They play the woman's game sexually/romantically, and therefore their habits and motivations transfer into their life force and motivation.</div>
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Now that I've said "life force" humor me with this new age thought: sexually I find the masculine counterpart's horny energy comes from his hips/balls area and projects onto the masculine subject's ass, while the feminine feels a longing in the chest for the masculine counterpart's desire, and the feminine projects 'her' desire onto his sexy upper torso. I very strongly feel that the life force is what's activated when someone is interested in a masculine way, and the feminine desire for the masculine's desire is desire for his outstanding life force, the procreator of life. Interestingly, they say that when a man's balls are literally cut off, he has little motivation in life. Correlation?</div>
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How have gays been able to accomplish so much if gay sex competition is minimal?</div>
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What is the fire under your ass, or the thing that holds the carrot in front of your face?</div>
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What would you say is the chief motivator for most gay men, sex or otherwise? A taste for life, an eye on luxury/harmony/pleasure/kitschiness?</div>
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If lack of motivation is more of a bottom's situation, should a bottom aim to become a top in bed in order to achieve, instead of find himself in a life of tying down a beta-bux?</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-43103820229489191352015-08-23T17:59:00.001-07:002015-08-23T17:59:49.454-07:00It's OK to say "no" to someone because they have HIV/AIDS, despite what the current PC campaign says<div style="color: #222222; font-family: verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.42857142857143em; margin-bottom: 15px !important; padding: 0px;">
AIDS was a big deal and a death sentence, and nowadays with the right meds, it seems to be a pain in the ass financially but if you're responsible you should basically be fine, or so they say. I'm pretty uninformed but my understanding is that most people who have AIDS will still die from some form of "AIDS related illness" aka AIDS pressing the off button on your immune system, so AIDS still completely sucks to get.</div>
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My Facebook feed has been lecturing gays about <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin: 0px;">HIV/AIDS "stigma"</span> and how it is now arrogant to not sleep with someone just because they have HIV/AIDS. Especially if they mention they are "undetectable," which means they are taking their meds enough that they shouldn't be transmitting. Because you should always take a relative stranger's word on their disease-status when your life depends on it, right?</div>
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It must suck to have this disease, have to share the news with partners should you decide to, and be inevitably turned down or heartbroken as a result of a dumb past decision, or perhaps be relegated to condom use or only informed gays who take PrEP (which seems to be <a href="http://www.avert.org/news/pre-exposure-prophylaxis-prep-86-effective-reducing-hiv-among-msm" style="color: #0079d3; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;">86</a>-<a href="http://men.prepfacts.org/the-basics/" style="color: #0079d3; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; text-decoration: none;">99%</a> effective). But no means no amirite? And if I had AIDS who am I to lecture responsible men on how they should have sex with me for politeness' sake?</div>
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I was doing a voluntary anonymous gay-male-sex study for money when I said something like "protection" referring to condoms and the monitor quipped something about how that word has "stigma" as if AIDS were something someone would want to protect themselves from, so he personally prefers to use another word. I'm not sure if someone is trying really hard to get gay people to keep on fucking AIDS into each other as if it would actually cull our population, or people are really trying this hard to create a world where No One's Feelings Are Hurt Ever. And if hundreds of gays get AIDS in the process and the pharmacists keep making that money, hey we made people feel better!</div>
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I am largely beginning to think that there is a large but strong undercurrent of counter-thought to most of these PC campaigns, especially since nowadays you don't hear much from the boogeyman-side that they are shouting against. "Black lives matter, especially when it's a white person killing them (despite 93% of black murder victims being killed by other blacks)!" "Ok." "Her body her choice!" "Ok." "Feminism!" "Mhmm."</div>
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RP says, it's your life, not their politeness playground. Your body your choice betch!</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-3700000193234956102015-07-15T16:53:00.003-07:002015-07-15T16:53:41.590-07:00Alpha-widowed? Maybe it's time to become an alpha.<div style="color: #222222; font-family: verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 1.42857142857143em; margin-bottom: 15px !important; padding: 0px;">
Alpha-widowed is a term we see often on TRP that refers to a woman who met her male alpha match and can't have him back and won't take anything lower (and for alpha widows that becomes, "won't take anyone else"). Maybe he was a one night stand, maybe an ex. These women are considered damaged goods by the community.</div>
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Gay men infatuated with a masculine superior who no longer gives him any notice have a vantage point that women don't however. They can make the man of their dreams out of themselves. Not just in a feel-good way ("Well Dan isn't answering my texts anymore, but check my new mile-running time!") but actually feel his love for that masculinity go towards himself as he becomes it, and the bygone alpha-Dan becomes objectively substandard to his new self. He doesn't have to miss moaning under the Masculine; he can <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px;">be</em> the Masculine in even better form, channeling it better than Dan.</div>
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Straight RP men actually have the same solution. Making yourself an alpha male draws all your pheromones to think you are really, really awesome, that the guy in the mirror is really, really awesome, and bitches become a fun occasional side gig, girlfriend included, an inferior priority to the god that is YOU. We preach this on TRP all the time.</div>
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Gay men though, have the whole masc/fem, bottom/top thing going on so masculinity can be a little more complicated. Anal semantics aside (literally and figuratively), my whole schpeal regarding gay sex/dating is and has been that masculine/feminine polarization is just as an important dynamic sexually between straight partners <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">and</em> gay partners. One is the player providing masculine value, the other is the screening playful more-feminine one looking for Mr Guy. An initiator and a receptor. Otherwise it's two dudes planning a mutual wank playing who can get their tongue down further the other's throat, or two drag queens planning a Lady Gaga shasay into the ground.</div>
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Being a feminine receptor to a straight-guy-type is fun because you are going mostly off of your looks (you don't necessarily have to lift), the other guy initiates if you're lucky ("he wants me, oh my!" is a familiar and fun feminine endorphin) and the guy, if you're lucky, is muscular, taller, and actually likes that you are easier to handle/carry and boss around. It's also fun because you will probably deal with less catty gays and instead guys who just act more like guys. Less drama, more interesting conversation, and, if you're into missionary, chizeled abs going thump-thump right above your pelvis. I accept.</div>
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But I've found that moments where I catch myself at my most masculine offset a joy I didn't know I had. So when a twinkier, cute, light-haired guy shows interest in me and I'm basically down despite him not being Captain America, I follow the push and pull, and practice being the oak tree that the bottom-monkey climbs on and feeds off of.</div>
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It only sucks because in the position of the masculine, you're more likely going to be with more ostentatiously feminine guys (or go through the trouble of screening them out if you're on a mission for a masculine submissive), you deal with shit tests, which are hard -- basically, they're not expecting to buy you a drink (but they do, if you let them). Being the guy is so much eeeasier than being the girl, right?!</div>
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I had a plate who was cute and an insider into our industry, which I found very interesting, so the conversation was mostly that. He did text a lot though so I kept him at a distance and ignored his empty openers ("you're cute"; "hi"). When we were among others and he wasn't worried about concentrating on conversation that fancied me, I couldn't help noticing the similarities between being a girl and being a feminine gay bottom type. I mostly am a gay/skinny(toned)/feminine guy to be honest, but I like to think I'm more grounded and curious than this generic type I'm about to elaborate on:</div>
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I noticed that when he was talking to others, he would always go on about himself without exception. His tone was always gossip-y and whenever he talked about others' actions, it was always with a "wow! can't believe they went there!" because <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">someone else</em> would certainly judge that, the <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">status quo</em> had been clear to him but not to the dissenter in question, or <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">something else</em> had set the rules and garlfriend wasn't following! Scandal! Judgment decries them! Moments alone for this girl-fellow were an instantaneous flight to Instagram where, with an almost somber expression, he would Like almost everything on it; he was therefore <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">one with the group</em> and 'with it.' More sad are the femme gays who I have actually seen get off to some kind of 'empowerment' by double-tapping Insta posts by celebrities who have never heard of them and who will never notice their 1 second Like-contribution. What all of these have in common is that the Instagram, the gossip, even the hair-tossing (for <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">whom?</em>), all swirl and dance around a phallic symbol, like a big wide open vagina worshipping a Penis so deep inside of it that it can't see it: the Penis, a based protagonist, a rule-setting, phallic beast that <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">is</em> the rule, the status quo, the man. And when Penis says "WHAT is this!" or anything goes against Order/Rules/Society (i.e. Penis) and Penis's silence echoes the dissonance between the offense and It, social media and chicks go "ohh..my...gawsh. Oh no they didn't. Literally can't. Hashtag not doing what everyone else is doing even though Big Phallic Center Of Gravity says to and we all follow it. Also that dress? What will people (Penis) think? Also, the other day Louise ignored Michelle in front of everyone when she said hi [expecting huge reaction from person she is telling]. (Penis says to try to be nice, as we all know, and this is a violation of Penis.)" "That's nothing: Matt said something <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">racist.</em>" (She couldn't give less of a shit about hurt feelings or discrimination; Penis says it's bad though and that makes all the girls go "oh! ohh Penis!") These peter pan girly gay boys are putting on a show for an invisible judgmental distant man all the time. <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">They are the true Charlie's Angels.</span></div>
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The craziest part was when this other guy was talking about another guy like "oh he's showing interest in me!" soullessly like a little whaddya know status show instead of any kind of connection, and his girlfriends would be like "ahmaga good job." My only inner response was, wait, seriously? That's something to be proud of? It was obvious that for this particular guy the only thing going through Mr Chad's mind was "sure I'll stick my dick in that." (This was the Instagram one btw.) I never thought TRP would make me laugh at a chick/bottom's self-congratulation of being with a worthy guy, but that's the thing -- the guy is the worthy one. Not this leech.</div>
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<span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">For the truly and pathetically femme gay men, power is always by proxy.</span> Tagging Beyonce in tweets, <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">showing off</em> that they saw Cher on the street -- it's one thing to do something like this occasionally and in good taste or humor, but for many gays this is life as they know it, and settling for anything else is a [RuPaul pun regarding the word "no"]. Including with the manly men they seek -- a manly man is power and status for them, these gays have made <a href="http://de.wikimannia.org/images/Esther-Vilar_The-Manipulated-Man.pdf" style="color: #0079d3; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; text-decoration: none;">luxury items</a><sup style="font-size: 0.86em; line-height: 0; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">1</sup> of themselves. Feminine people need validation, need to put someone down, and <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">this all depends on someone else's judgment/decisions/values,</span> the <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">status quo</em> of their society, the firm regulations that are like a holy book that fall hard on a surface and make the feminine person go "oh!" (in both acquiescence and pleasure).</div>
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<em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;">Be</em> the status quo. <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">Be</em> the rule. <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">Make <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">your own</em> values.</span> It applies to relationships too: gay men don't have to revel in the cat lady status that women so often do once Chad sees their expiration date is up. <span style="font-style: inherit; font-weight: 600; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;"><em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">They can be men.</em></span></div>
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And now for something uncanny:</div>
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<a href="http://putlocker.is/watch-the-perverts-guide-to-cinema-online-free-putlocker.html" style="color: #0079d3; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;">The Pervert's Guide to Cinema</a> talks about, among MANY things, this phenomenon of a figure not being able to leave your life; it comes out either in your imagination, or an impression you do. This phenomenon has come up a lot in movies as a creepy Other that sometimes becomes you. In almost all cases it <em style="font-weight: inherit; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px;">is</em> the person, or an untapped energy inside the person that the person refuses to dig into. A very interesting and humorously made documentary for its own sake. Are you ignoring your masculinity and projecting it onto other inferior boys?</div>
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Man up :]</div>
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<sup style="font-size: 0.86em; line-height: 0; margin: 0px;">1</sup> Linked because of this quote: "There is one great advantage which women have over men: they have a choice – a choice between the life of a man and the life of a dimwitted, parasitic luxury item. There are too few women who would not select the latter." Funny that gay men have this choice too, and too often select the latter.</div>
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Edit #343234575: I noticed that I only dealt with oneitis towards more masculine/dominant guys. I guess becoming more alpha is still the answer, as it is with TRP, even if your oneitis was more submissive/feminine. Bitches ain't shit, and oneitis is feminine anyway; it depends on the other person etc. Become the rule.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-65759600959160737762015-06-04T08:39:00.001-07:002015-06-04T08:40:14.367-07:00Responsible OffendednessThere is a considerable amount of well-meaning tone-policing, word-policing, and, well, thought-policing on Facebook lately, mostly meant to raise awareness and politeness, but sometimes with haughty moral superiority that is not so empathetic and actually meant to start a witch hunt against those who think non-hatefully, but simply have different ideas on how everyone can achieve even more happiness using broadly different and scientific tactics (totally not me or anything!). In everyone's rush to get everyone to think like them and to get those pesky individuals who think differently to at least act like they do by following arbitrary "rules," I propose a few "rules" about REPONSIBLE OFFENDEDNESS, and, according to the current doctrines, I Totally Can Do This because I am gay and hispanic. No privilege tho.<br />
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1. If someone offends you, it doesn't mean they hate you or XYZ group.<br />
2. If someone offends you, it doesn't mean they're wrong. It means you had an experience, and the truth is independent of that.<br />
3. If someone offends you, it doesn't mean you're right. You could be right, but your level of offendedness doesn't correlate with the truth.<br />
4. Don't immediately try to unemploy someone who holds a view that is different than yours, or who feels differently towards a subject than you or what everyone is supposed to feel/think.<br />
5. If you find yourself trying to unemploy someone after an interaction with them, you are probably doing something shitty and don't care about free speech.<br />
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If these rules seem severe, check out the other rules on your feed. You obviously don't have to follow these rules, but see what happens when you don't follow the others!<br />
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"Kids in school don't know how to think anymore. They feel something and they think they're thinking." ~ Thomas Sowell, very summarized quote<br />
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(I almost posted the above on my Facebook. What was I thinking!)Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-52885215985842110032015-05-09T19:23:00.004-07:002015-05-09T19:23:43.814-07:00Never Do This After A (First) Date/Hangout/Hookup"Hey nice to meet you, sorry if I was a little off today :] hope you have a safe ride home!"<br />
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"Sorry about tonight haha"<br />
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"Hope I wasn't too boring tonight :P later..."<br />
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Never send an apologetic text after a (first) date. Strange that it has to be said, as if that would go against something on this blog, but it's just a beta knee-jerk response that has to be killed.<br />
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Unless it was unclear, these texts usually follow an orderly or at least no-bumps-on-the-road date where nothing in particular happened. Not that you should be making every date an adrenaline-pumped experience; it just comes from a feeling of not having 'done' enough, as if you had to do anything except just <i>be </i>and have a good time with him. That feeling comes from thoughts and feelings of low self-worth.<br />
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Will it <i>ruin</i> your chances with a guy to send him this text? It'll put him off at least a little. No one wants to be with an obedient little sheep. But more likely than not, he may have not been that into you to begin with, causing you to think you were doing something wrong and/or giving you more tingles, in turn causing you to send that unnecessary text.<br />
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Just don't. Keep your self respect.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-61456175753231079372015-04-03T08:35:00.003-07:002015-04-03T08:35:41.262-07:00Heroism and Hero Worship in SexualityAlong the theme of the top/masc partner gifting his 'fire' to his feminine/bottom partner, I just found this really interesting article. It talks about the value that men and women have, what exactly "masculinity" and "femininity" with no politically correct agenda, while being very exacting and careful in how the male/female relationship pans out, value exchange, etc.<br />
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<i><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">"Hero worship is based on the </span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">metaphysical natures</span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;"> of men and women, i.e., what a woman </span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">is </span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">and what a man </span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">is</span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">. The less efficacious <strike>gay guy</strike> woman looks up to and admires the stronger man. A <strike>top's</strike> male’s sexuality is wrapped up in heroism, and a <strike>bottom's</strike> woman’s sexuality is wrapped up in admiring him because this is, after all, what has allowed civilization to exist and to prosper. </span></i><i><b>Sex is the celebration of life. Life is the standard of erotica."</b></i><br />
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<i>"<span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">Hero worship is </span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">not</span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;"> meant to be a damning curse, highlighting the “inferiority” of <strike>bottoms/subs</strike> women. It should be nothing more than a simple, benevolent female-to-male appreciation."</span></i><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; font-style: italic; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;">"</span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 14.6666669845581px; line-height: 16.8666667938232px;"><i>If hero worship is not the response to male strength, the only other response possible is jealousy. Feminists make this response inevitable." </i><-- Interesting to consider in terms of male/male sex. A guy who wants to identify solely as a top would have this response, while a guy comfortable being submissive would find longing in seeing a bigger guy.</span><br />
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<a href="http://www.amberpawlik.com/Gender.html">Here it is.</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-70686154344615403072015-04-01T22:30:00.001-07:002015-04-01T22:43:52.654-07:00Working out your purpose but also being a "good person"<div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.8000001907349px;">
If my interest in the energy between sexual partners is any indication, I'm fascinated by the potential emotional forces inside us that bring out the best and most sexual and awesome in ourselves and others.</div>
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But I grew interest in Universal Compassion, an idea seen by many to be imaginary (and myself too mostly), but this interest largely conflicted, I thought, with my power/fame/money/muscles/success/player purpose.</div>
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I have an alchemical practice that's enabled me to really get in touch with <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2015/03/how-to-fuck-guy-like-man-or-every.html">my fire</a>; the technique is a topic for another blog and I'll let you know if that happens. After a successful night of permanently burning off a chunk of anxiety and depression, a feeling of love towards everything is in all circumstances underneath it; it grows, outstretches, and then my personality (personality = unprocessed experiences that are distortions of that one true love) takes a positive shift and a portion of my real, true self comes back, permanently.</div>
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With those experiences under my belt, it's become clear to me that even when removing the veil of religion -- a genre of institutions that ultimately seek to control -- the message from the ancients and my unbridled soul at its most pure is the same: we are love, our purpose is love. But fuck, I want money and bitches. (Don't worry, there's a happy ending for us.)</div>
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<span style="font-size: 12.8000001907349px;">What is love? </span><span style="font-size: xx-small;">Baby, don't hurt me...</span><span style="font-size: 12.8000001907349px;"> The word is so overused and broad that it can mean to take a great interest in something, to fall in love with someone romantically and sexually (dependency/infatuation), to feel affection towards a friend (fraternity), and the ultimate material the universe is made of (hippie dippie shit I believe, but you don't have to in order to get the thrust of this article). Let's concern ourselves with the most frustrating version:</span></div>
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I do occasionally find myself feeling compassion for people involved in some atrocity, and my conversation style is steeped in sympathy when it needs to be, but the sensation is as fleeting as any other feeling, even if it is more profound.</div>
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What's been most frustrating about this is that while I <i>WANT</i> UNITY OF PURPOSE, in my day to day life I'm more interested in growing and becoming BETTER and more VALUABLE (as we should be!). So if we are all distortions of love and love is the true thing, but most of our drives are deliciously self-interested, but being a monk with nothing sucks, and giving out handouts is also unfulfilling, which is the right direction??</div>
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<b>We weren't made to become professional leech-assistants. </b>That's what I was afraid of, in my thought process of how to think and react towards the needy parts of the world.<b> I was afraid that being big-hearted meant that I would have to stop what I wanted to do, and help others get their footing until everyone was all caught up.</b></div>
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The intelligence behind the universe is staggering: the atmosphere and alignment of the planets is just perfect enough for humans to survive, and even Richard Dawkins in "The Selfish Gene" pointed out that even if we had all the years that we understand the universe to have existed, it still makes no sense that something as complex as Man could be happening right now, or perhaps ever. So I'll use the unforgivable idea that a mind is responsible for the universe JUST so I can make this point: <b>What kind of intelligence would make a group of beings so it could just help other beings that couldn't help themselves? And in a universe in which everyone attained happiness, <u>what on earth are they GOOD FOR if they were built just to help the less fortunate? Once they were ALL HAPPY, where does their 'altruistic true programming' go from there??</u></b></div>
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It goes to show that <b><i>BUILDING YOURSELF IS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY. YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOUR NUMBER ONE PRIORITY. OTHERS' HAPPINESS IS NOT YOUR JOB.</i></b></div>
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<b>Compassion is an amazing feeling.</b> When it happens and it's genuine, you should act on it because you WANT to act on it. Doing compassionate things out of a "sense of duty" feels like slapping yourself in the face. You are probably giving a man a fish instead of teaching a man to fish when you feel that way. Follow your fire; it purifies everything. And when it wants to teach out of charity, it wants to teach efficiently <i>so you produce ANOTHER being that is ALSO SELF-RELIANT.</i></div>
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There are evil "purposes," of course, such as a goal to inflict prolonged pain on a group of people because it would get you off. That's what happens when the "input" you got, that is, incredibly shitty childhood with parents with similar goals, don't get processed out of your system by absorbing and letting go of shitty experiences. As a messed up person, your convoluted intention behind your 'fire' is to go ahead and do that crazy shit, so that'd be an example of a shitty purpose.</div>
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But let's assume your purpose isn't evil and a cry for help -- you want stuff, and to feel good about yourself, and a status that make those lower in vibration feel envy.</div>
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Follow your Purpose. Do your thing. You'll help others along the way. That is, if they deserve it.</div>
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I'm not talking about the poor and "whether they deserve it"; there are poor people who were as comfortable as you or I and got the carpet pulled from under them and have nowhere to go. I'm okay with taxes going towards unemployment for that reason. But let's put that aside for now and talk about serious leeches, of society and of you personally.</div>
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My public/non-anonymous persona has had a jump in the fame chart: earned a verified check on my Facebook page and getting a lot of "fans." Every single day I have someone message me, "Hey, can you do something for me?" The irony is staggering. It's not that I'm getting arrogant and starting to think, "Who are you to ask big mister me?", but instead, my internal monologue goes, "Who are you or ANYONE to ask if you can take something from someone else <i>and not offer something in return?</i>" To assume you don't have value is the end of your value.</div>
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Some of us want a hand when we're down, but when we get up, not all of us want to become Mother Theresas. The homeless person you clothe and feed today won't necessarily do that for others. Does that mean you shouldn't be compassionate when the impulse is healthy and aligned with your values? No, you can be. But it does mean that you should realize that ULTIMATELY, <b><i>EVERYONE WANTS TO BECOME THE BEST VERSION OF THEMSELVES, AND THAT IS OUR FINAL MISSION -- EVERYONE'S WORLD IS ABOUT THEMSELVES AND THEIR GOALS/GOD.</i></b></div>
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So in short, no, fulfilling your dream to be a Wall Street wolf or an It guy or a DJ whose DNA is inside all the jumping bottoms is not "selfish." <b><u>Serve by becoming an example to others.</u></b> Sounds like a great way to serve without getting leeches. Grow. When you have the chance to really be compassionate, you'll be glad to have been selected for the mission (by your own self) because it'll feel great. You'll teach a man to fish, not give him fish. You'll let YOUR Power and Influence do something that brings harmony and vibrancy to the lucky person or people of your choices. Bitches love harmony. (Ha, no they don't. On that note...)</div>
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<b>Breaking hearts?</b> If you're doing it literally on purpose, there's something very shitty eating your soul that is making heartbreaking interesting to you, so your 'bad karma' 'has already been served' ahead of time in the form of your tarnished insides. On the other hand, if you're simply interested in a guy and lose interest and your departure causes him to wonder what the meaning of life is, that's him dealing with feelings that he's already had inside that are surfacing. Help him out if you want to, not that there's anything you can really do. Is sticking around as if you were his boyfriend really going to help him in the long run?</div>
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All right. You're already "good." Now <b>go get what you want.</b></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-43993884525704146902015-03-26T22:27:00.001-07:002015-03-26T23:40:15.028-07:00How to Fuck a Guy Like a Man (or, Every Moment is Sex When You're Masculine, or you're at least trying to be)This revelation (the one between parentheses in the title) blew my mind. Allow me to extrapolate before I seem too ridiculous.<br />
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A little over a year ago I was finishing with packing my bags to fly to see family, but a hot guy I'd been talking to on Grindr was in the hood and had a free minute. He came over, smooth tan muscular taller, took his shirt off. As he naturally established dominance and I became submissive to his chiseled body and naturally more aggressive foreplay, I slowly let myself sink into <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2014/09/why-male-femininity-is-fundamental-to.html">the joy of becoming his plaything</a>.<br />
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He stuck his arm around my hips while we were jacking off or kissing and it felt amazing. It made the feeling of warmth and security come out from my chest, which is a lot of fun if you're not too easily attached. Nothing makes a bottom feel more loved than another guy's testosterone-filled, not-necessarily-loving intentions.<br />
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But the arm-hip thing is what I <b>thought</b> I loved about that.<br />
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At one point I pushed my hand into his bicep for balance and panted, "Do that thing where you stick your arm around my waist again." He was happy to oblige, but as manly and natural as the gesture was, the oxytocin (love chemical) didn't happen again.<br />
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Huh? Was it an in-the-moment thing? I'd given myself plenty of time for my flight, so it wasn't stress.<br />
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I wasn't a drama king about it; we continued having sex and he deliciously came all over me, and my come followed his right after; the come looked like a father eel taking a dive and his baby eel following suit (lol). Semen famously has mixed reviews, but when you're into the dominant guy, you want it like Gogurt, and a dominant guy who's into you wants to splooge his all over in/you; none of this polite nonsense of coming out of sight into condoms. After our breath settled, his bigger, darker hand gently grabbed mine and he guided it around my ripply torso, and it was the first time I massaged another guy's seed into mine. If you want to fill a bottom with that love chemical (oxytocin) and get him ready for round two, that's how.<br />
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During that shag or another, I realized it wasn't <i>just in themselves</i> his hand clasping my hip or him massaging our come that brought my body chemistry to life, <b>but his masculine desire to do those things</b> that was so hot about the experience.<br />
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His <b>desire</b> to hold me and have me belong a little more to him during a sloppy kiss.<br />
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The <b>desire</b> in his eyes as he scanned my body and rubbed himself out on me.<br />
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His <b>desire</b> to fertilize me with his seed, so I would symbolically bring his young to bear.<br />
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What this specific kind of desire consists of:<br />
1) it's masculine/assertive/dominant<br />
2) it's exactly how he likes it<br />
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<b>I always like it when he, the masculine, does what he wants with me, the feminine. His act of satisfying himself with me is my own victory.</b><br />
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THIS REQUIRES SOMEONE DESIRING TO BE THE EPITOME OF MASCULINITY TO ALWAYS BE FAMILIAR AND INCREDIBLY AWARE OF HIS <b>DESIRE.</b><br />
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It's a flame inside you; it's not you.<br />
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I was able to replicate this with a French boy who had the pleasure of riding me one evening; I was 'top' and he was 'bottom', no penetration.<br />
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The experience of being great at being masculine during sex is that you do exactly <i>what you want</i>. That doesn't mean you brainstorm and choose at random instead of someone else choosing for you; it means you have to <b>be in touch with that fire that has a mind of its own</b>.<br />
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During sex with Pierre (his real name, not being fresh), I remember never knowing what I was going to do next until I was doing it, as if I were watching myself act. My eyes were glazed over because my consciousness was in my belly and balls; he was looking at me expectantly and wanting to please, a little afraid from my gaze that I would say at any moment, "let's not." I remember how delicious, veiny, smooth, and innocent his throat looked. I spent a good three minutes chewing it all raw, and made it familiar with my dick, while he helplessly tried to land his mouth on my penis, while I made sure that didn't happen until I wanted it to. Later I had fun pressing my dick on parts of him that were hot (to me) and like they could take a shot of seed. ("Oh mai got...oh mai got...")<br />
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The sensation of banging <b><u>a masculine guy who's following his fire,</u></b> and being the lucky feminine guy who is the <i>means</i> to which the 'top' can execute and explore his fire, is a holy experience for the 'bottom.'<br />
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<b><u>T</u></b><u><b>he feminine (the bottom) wants to feel desired in the most authentic way that someone's masculine fire (the top) expresses that desire. That's it.</b></u><br />
<u><b><br /></b></u>During one of my first experiences as a top, I thought I was fucking this guy until I realized I wasn't inside of him. He said "I didn't tell you because I don't like getting penetrated, but I like feeling dominated." (He likes feeling a guy's firey <i>desire</i> for him, and to have that masculine <strike>energy</strike> desire go straight towards him<i>.</i>)<br />
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When you play Big Man, your submissive boy, while able to share this experience with you humanly and perhaps lovingly, is still a means to the end of your ejaculation and bearing your sure-to-be-strong children, which is his primal prerogative in the heat of passion. You see him like a pretty piece of meat, you talk to him like a semen-absorbent, gorgeous piece of meat (while keeping peace of mind and making sure he doesn't think he's landed a serial killer), and he'll enjoy that because he feels your desire oozing over him like a semen ocean that keeps him safe from the horrors out in the world. He's gonna have kids from a competent gene pool, <i>and</i> his daddy's a badass -- oops, he means, his future kids' daddy.<br />
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With light-eyed, blond, smooth, submissive-to-me boys, when I'm jacking off on them and my face is close to their ear, particularly at night and under sheets, I'll whisper how I want to get them pregnant, how fertile they are, telling them I wanna be the daddy to their kids, biting at their neck, mouth, nose. As creepy and weird as this sounds out of context, these theater and PR boys will smile at me sweetly and in all instances whisper, "Do you have a condom?" (Translation: Will you please fuck your seed into me now?)<br />
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The more you are in touch with your fire, the more your boy toy is excited to help the fire out. Everyone has fire; only some are the most in touch with it, and those are the worthy ones (alphas) ready to bring the light of the next generation. Your casual bottom partner might not be thinking of what your kids will look like during sex, but your masculine presence pressing against him elicits a heart-filled fantasy that tempts him to sleep under your cocksure strength for a thousand and one nights.<br />
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<b><u>You are a warrior-like channel for your carnal desire when you are at your best masculine fucking.</u></b><br />
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If your boy is screaming that he wants you to pull his hair, but you fancy giving him a hicky and pounding your dick under his package, guess what he's gonna be more excited for you to do now. A bottom isn't too excited about a top taking orders against his will. If you pleasing him about that particular thing he pleads for is hot to you, go ahead -- it's okay because you're Obeying Your Fire. To him it'll ideally feel like he asked for one thing and you did something else, even though you did what he asked. Your tiger is out of the bag, there's nothing he can do about it, and you can feel him shaking slightly; he's terrified and loving every second.<br />
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When you're the feminine guy, you'll learn (or already know) how fun it is when a guy wants you. That's all you want during that transaction. To be wanted. (By a hot guy.) Don't tell him to find his fire. You can cheat into more polarized positioning where he's more masculine and you're more feminine. Then let it flow.<br />
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Okay, and WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH EVERY MOMENT IN LIFE BEING SEX?!<br />
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Your fire doesn't only exist when you're gasping between sheets.<br />
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I have a lot of fun as a submissive guy to bigger guys, I think all gay guys should experience that, but, I still think that by default, a gay guy will be happiest living a masculine lifestyle at the bare minimum sense of: taking his own direction, making sure he's working towards what he wants, living with what he wants, and setting proper boundaries against what he doesn't want.<br />
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That also requires being in touch with your fire. It's the same fire.<br />
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If you want swag, be in touch with your fire.<br />
If you want to lose your social anxiety, get in touch with your fire.<br />
If you want to be an oak tree and less of a spaz, get in touch with your fire.<br />
If you want to be the alpha male, get in touch with your fire.<br />
If you want to be funny, get in touch with your fire.<br />
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When you approach a guy and you are officially the dominant personality, <b><u>YOU HAVE ALREADY BEGUN HAVING SEX WITH HIM</u></b>. Do what you feel like, but not to be an asshole on purpose. Unless your charm is set to 10, let your eyes glaze a bit and let's talk about what you feel like, and the stuff about him that you feel like. He's learning all he needs to about your girth in that moment. One time my approach at a club, I swooped in and told him he looked like an adorable wind-up toy. I dunno where that came from. Did I give a fuck? No. Did he ask that I "please stay" when I said I was walking? Yes.<br />
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A great life is like having sex as the more dominant guy. Touch what you want. Don't be nervous that he won't like it. He'll let you know if he's sensitive. His sensitivity is endearing. Does it make you wanna kiss him? Do it. He'll like it because you want to do it. <u style="font-weight: bold;">Your desire is fucking hot, as the top. FIND IT.</u> Oops we were talking about real life.<br />
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The difference between walking into a party submissively and making yourself seem less than others so everyone else is comfortable, and walking in to see who you really care about seeing and what you actually feel like doing and letting your energy shine towards that and allowing your fire and energy to magnetize what you want towards you, is that the latter is like walking into bed with a little 18 year old boy angel who wants you to fuck the shit out of him, and to make sure he can do everything he can in order for you to do that.<br />
The second one is better.<br />
Peace.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-10041145849469315392015-02-16T01:53:00.002-08:002015-02-16T02:57:51.836-08:00Number One Thing You'd Better Not Fuck UpBrothers and babes:<br />
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Whether you're approaching or were approached on the dance floor, <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2014/09/13-reasons-why-getting-boyfriend-is-hard.html">are in a relationship or about to be in one,</a> there's one thing you must do. It's not the only thing, but it's nonetheless important:<br />
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1. Figure out who the 'guy' is.<br />
2. Don't fuck it up.<br />
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I was texting a plate the other day who's in the military. He's pretty stoic in his texts and I usually become a shameless bouncy ball of energy when I talk with him; he's the oak tree in the relationship.<br />
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He's the guy.<br />
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<a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2013/12/be-man-how-chasing-person-you-like-can.html">I'm often the guy in other relationships.</a> The other night I accrued a plate at a club who danced with/around me the whole night and went out to eat with me and my friends right afterward. I was the stoic fucker who approached him dead on and he was the one singing songs by Mariah Something and letting his hypergamy send him into orbits around me and my crew.<br />
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But with me and Military Man, he was always the guy in the relationship.<br />
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One time MM texted me that he was sick. I found myself going into "poor baby" mode, not in a condescending way; I was being my man's little helper in text message form. I wanted my man to know his li'l boy angel was thinking of him. Then he said something that made my skin crawl.<br />
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"Well I have nothing to worry about, I have a big man who can protect me." (Referring to me.)<br />
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Talk about a <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2013/12/basics-on-getting-guy-chase-and-sexual.html">sexual polarity killer.</a><br />
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Plenty of guys tell me stuff like that, but they're my twinks, not my sexy daddies whose strength I subconsciously 'rely' on and whose displays of weakness give my reptilian brain the shivers.<br />
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Not to say it ended things. But that's probably because I can observe my romantic/sexual experiences, know where they're coming from, and once they happen, I can decide if the relationship's worth continuing.<br />
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Examples:<br />
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a) "He hasn't texted me back. BUT I WANT HIM SO MUCH. Well, that's not how it works. Abundance mentality, unsubscribe from posts, <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2014/05/dating-and-facebook-likes-its-thing.html">don't Like his stuff even if he starts pelting me with Likes as a result of my disappearance,</a> but be nice in person. NEXT."<br />
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b) "What a turn-off, that thing he did!* Well, I have fun sleeping with him; you don't see pecs like that every day. I can overcome my momentary instincts in return for some sex that'll make my endorphins fly."<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">* Applies to beta moments your big boy has. Not him being an inexcusable dick. In that case, you cut contact.</span><br />
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You get the point.<br />
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But you might not be dating a cad as self-observant, game-aware, or who considers all options. Most humans are feeling-based, and <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2014/06/a-word-on-discussion-of-controversial.html">even think that they're thinking when they're actually just feeling.</a> Therefore, when dealing with the law of sexual polarity, tread with care.<br />
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Figure out (<i>in your head, not in a conversation with him</i>) who's the daddy and who's the son; figure out who's taking care of who; figure out who's the oak tree and who's the monkey. (Of course, an alpha in the pair can be high-energy; that sentence is mostly related to emotional volatility.) It's not always so black and white, but if you see a pattern, realize that the exchange of the relationship is very likely dependent on that dynamic continuing.<br />
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If you're the alpha male and he's your boy, realize that opening up too much about your feelings may put a damper on his attraction for you, even if he 'wouldn't do that.' (Remember it's not him doing it; it's generations of evolution that's done that to his brain.)<br />
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If you're the pretty boy princess and he's your bodybuilding stoic prince charming, there is less that you can do wrong in this sense, but if your occasional wound-licking for your man makes you out to be the caretaker or paternal/maternal figure, he might naturally exhibit some submissive/passive behavior that'll dry you up faster than dry ice sublimates. (And dry ice is a solid that turns into a gas, y'all!!!!11!11 Skippin' being the element water and shit.)<br />
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At the same time, don't overdo your role; you were a person before getting to know this good-looking dude, remember? Just because you're the alpha doesn't mean you should be completely distant or a tyrannical asshole. Just because you're not the manly one in charge doesn't mean he wants to be dating a drag queen, or that he doesn't need consolation once in a while.<br />
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Ok, good learning today. Time to make a cold approach.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-9262242806281543372015-01-31T22:01:00.001-08:002015-01-31T22:01:54.493-08:00ACCEPT STEREOTYPES (I'm a minority, and I do this! Read on!)<span data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.0" style="background-color: #f6f7f8; color: #141823; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 15.3599996566772px;"><span data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.0.$end:0:$0:0">I'm a gay who plays flaming gays all the time, and I'm a latino who plays ghetto latinos a lot. At first, I wondered if this was 'problematic,' since I was taught from a young age that stereotypes are bad. But then I realized that if I wanted to go 'ag</span></span><span data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3" style="background-color: #f6f7f8; color: #141823; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 15.3599996566772px;"><span data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0"><span data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$0:0">ainst' a stereotype, I could go ahead and write something else MYSELF. And if people wanted to pay to see it, great! If not, oh well. I was taught at college that having only a niche audience is okay too.</span><br data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$1:0" /><br data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$3:0" /><span data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$4:0">I don't know the formal definition of "stereotype," but from the way people use it, it seems to mean a reoccurring personality trait or habit within a group of people that everyone recognizes happening within that group because they see it all the time, but because it's unflattering, people call it a "stereotype" so you're a complete asshole if you point it out. Stereotypes are also not-demeaning, but those are discouraged from being show too often too ("look! it's a latino family with a lot of money!" "wow you're racist for reminding me how latinos often aren't wealthy." "oops my bad"). It's useful to identify stereotypes so you don't ASSUME it every single time about every single person of that group, since you would many times be wrong by assuming every gay is flaming for example, but, the problem with using "stereotype" as a weapon against writing/art we don't like is that it encourages us to stop others' freedom to portray people however they like and however they see them, and to talk about people as they very often are.</span><br data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$5:0" /><br data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$7:0" /><span data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$8:0">One stereotype that comes to mind is the easy girl. Couple thoughts: nothing wrong with being easy. Also, maybe it's not a stereotype in that it's not as common as we see in entertainment, but maybe the writer knows 10,000 chaste women and 1 easy woman, and he wanted to write about that easy woman because it was uncommon to him but still interesting. Maybe someone who grew up in the suburbs went to NYU, got an apartment in Washington Heights, saw me having a ghetto interaction in Spanish with someone, and he saw it interesting/funny/amusing so he thought he'd write about it. Maybe a writer saw me make out with two guys at the same time in a car and she wanted to write about slutty gays who are at risk of STDs. They are and should be totally free to write about their observations/experiences.</span><br data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$9:0" /><br data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$11:0" /><span data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$12:0">If a stereotype is harmful for someone, then the answer isn't to police that creator/artwork. That sounds more silencing to me than to make sure I'm portrayed as not-promiscuous (LOL) and that I'm just like all white people (nope). Everyone is welcome to guilt writers and artists as much as possible though, but the artists don't have to listen. I hope to the heavens that we won't resort to stopping "stereotypes" by legal means to "protect" groups. I would be in a lot of trouble if straight people didn't know gays are generally slutty and all of a sudden they saw my enormous bags of condoms -- in fact, that could put me in a dangerous situation. If very feminine women weren't allowed to be portrayed on TV, how would women know it's okay to be sexual, and how would guys be socially/romantically/sexually prepared for the lady that wants to get down to business asap and not after date #4? They might be aghast and the "stereotype," well-hidden, would just be rebirthed. Keep in mind there are a lot of paradoxical stereotypes living alongside each other too -- the well-to-do latino family that rose above, the married gay couple that have been together for 30 years and are both 45 years old. (I am literally only using examples of my own minority groups because otherwise they would doubtlessly considered sexist/racist/homophobic -- what a world we live in!)</span><br data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$13:0" /><br data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$15:0" /><span data-reactid=".4.1:3:1:$comment10203936697483119_10203938935139059:0.0.$right.0.$left.0.0.1:$comment-body.0.3.0.$end:0:$16:0">Stereotypes don't apply to everyone -- it's not homophobic/sexist/racist to think so, just illogical -- but they reoccur all the time. If you want to stop a stereotype for whatever reason, the blood-curdling truth is, you can always start with yourself. As for me, I will keep being a flamer in jest, and change my personality when I talk Spanish sometimes. Sorry I can't be more helpful to my minority groups. If you want to portray someone against a stereotype and there is no public interest (no one's paying tickets), well, to the voting poles to force artists to portray different minority groups in entertainment in flattering ways! Or, keep looking for that audience. They exist!</span></span></span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-72142022498845589772015-01-26T18:27:00.003-08:002015-01-26T18:28:46.697-08:00To Hell With "Check Your Privilege"<div class="p1">
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I have a problem with this sign, even though it's technically 'in my favor' as a gay and hispanic. We are really over-playing our hand here, fellow minorities, in a very un-nice way, and "check your privilege" can have serious consequences.</div>
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It's one thing to raise awareness about disadvantages that individuals have, so they get recognition for their condition by others who are more advantaged, and the advantaged can thus learn/sympathize/assist/understand of their own free will. It is quite another thing to spread propaganda shaming others because of their sex/race/orientation/religion. Ahem.</div>
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Straight whites are the PC-approved punching bag of our recent time, if I may say that as a gay latino (if I weren't those things, I think it would be racist and straight-apologist for me to express this opinion...phew!). Recently, straight whites actually helped us out though, like, a lot. Certainly not all of them, but plenty. Especially Jews! They're letting gay marriage spread like it's going out of style, and the privately owned mainstream media is letting us know of any misbehavior by anyone wildly against the program. If a fellow hispanic acts like a total asshole (Zimmerman), I can rest assured the media will paint him as "white-hispanic" to decrease my chances of being oppressed during the trial, since minorities can't be racist against each other in the mainstream narrative. Phew! And, on top of being my go-to scapegoat, whites even have a phenomenon called White Guilt, where they KNOW they can be discriminatory, and are genuinely ashamed of their ancestors' actions, and those "hicks" in trailers, who are...not bad, just poor. They are even ashamed that they are SUBCONSCIOUSLY discriminative, just by being humans with brains, and they publish cartoons and articles at length lamenting their original sin.</div>
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Meanwhile, we the minorities are rubbing our hands together, ready to play the role of oppressor now! We love when they feel guilty! Instead of enjoying the settling harmony of acceptance, we put up signs shaming them for things TOTALLY outside of their control and that only reflect conditions in their lives that have nothing to do with their ACTIONS or content of their CHARACTER, like: their gender, sexual orientation, race, socioeconomic footing...sound familiar? We list all the goodies they got that we didn't, by chance, so we ask they hold it as a heavy raincloud-reminder over their heads, for our sake. Really you guys? The sign says "straights can hold hands and gays can't" -- true, but I rarely think of this at any point in my day! No matter which country I'm in! Why should they? Were we listening during Pre-K "we are all equal" circle time, or were we assuming that was just for the white folks in the polos who looked kinda, like, mean, and heteronormative? Let's not prop ourselves up by putting them down -- let's all support who we are; all of us are goddamn meaningful.</div>
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I COMPLETELY understand that the fight isn't over for minorities. There is still a *LOT* of discrimination against non-whites and non-straights, and I'm really only thinking within a coastal, U.S. scope here! There's so much work to be done. But privilege-pointing isn't how we should deal with it. If anything, this tactic builds resentment and divides us from the people who should be WITH us, not against us. If you think WE'RE oppressed, roll the die and take a few weeks in a third world country, or Russia. Jesus HQ Christ. (I was Christian for ten years or so, so...I can say that...)</div>
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Everyone deserves to have a shot at the best life possible. I encourage you to not impede progress by biting the hand that, well, fed/feeds us. We live in a democracy, not the fascism this sign would like, and our happiness is still, to a large extent, white people's business too, and our affirmative action (which helped me get into college, and didn't help white people) is not an amendment. No homo! (I'm gay, so I "can" say that. No free speech privilege here!)</div>
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<b>Hey, hows it going. I found your blog through alttrp and have read most of the posts. I thought I might get your opinion on something because it seems your ideas about gay relationships are mostly in line with mine.</b></div>
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<b>How much do you think the actual sexual positions and acts between a couple reflect on their positions in the relationship. I'm with a guy and I'd say that I tend towards the more masculine role and he's more feminine. I work hard to maintain that dynamic because I think we both enjoy it that way. In sex he's been pretty excursively the bottom for me with the exception of one time.</b></div>
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<b>Now I've read what you said about masculine and feminine feed back during sex. I enjoy the fact that he gives that feminine feedback when we fuck. I also know how to give that feedback myself when I'm was on the receiving end in a different relationship. But for some reason it feels wrong to me in this context.</b></div>
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<b>Are the sexual roles of each partner normally so set? Do versatile guys really just trade off as they please with no effect on the dynamic of their relationship outside of sex? I'd like to bottom once and a while, but I think it would just undermine my frame entirely. I think ultimately both he and I would be less happy in the relationship if I allowed myself to do that.</b></div>
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It sounds like you've bottomed with him once, so what happened when you did? What was it like during, shortly after, and since? The answer might be the knot that unfurls this whole thing. I think you should assume it would make things different, <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2013/12/be-man-how-chasing-person-you-like-can.html">especially if you've been working hard on being dominant.</a> If you feel a lingering father-child relationship with him where you're validating what he says, <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2014/09/why-male-femininity-is-fundamental-to.html">he asks you lots of questions about life and how you do things, it feels like he's playing around in the safety of your world, your builds clearly make you fit for your respective dom/sub roles,</a> then you've clearly established dominance, and doing this would add a new flavor. (You could have also established your own mark of dominance without those exact symptoms.)</div>
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One situation I could imagine working, if I may be explicit, is if he tops you, but for him it's the same as him jacking off and not necessarily being your "new daddy," while you let out low grunts and elongated moans as the bottom -- I think elongation with low-toned vocality helps keep one dominant. I had a moment humping a muscle daddy's great ass but he was still absolutely dominant from the beginning to the end; not in a self-conscious way, but in how we responded to each other and what we ultimately wanted from each other (I was 18 and wanted to be swallowed under his muscles, he thought I was cute and was cool playing macho with me for an evening). It sounds like you're in tune with your feminine side when you bottom though, and stifling that can take the fun out of it. I don't think repressing what you want to do is the way to go, and that just messes up the circuitry/flow anyway.</div>
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You could alternatively bottom with him one night, and then act like nothing's changed afterward. You could pre-plan something you would do, for example, right after you finish, e.g., get right off the bed, pull up your pants, and lay flat on the bed on your phone (or in the big spoon position). It would feel like he was ultimately pleasing you, so you would still be top dog, giving him a "you did good" feeling, even pressing your dick against his butt when you're curled up together afterward so he knows what's up. Before you started the sex, you could smother him with your body, suck his neck, and with your mouth on his ear, tell him to pleasure you with his dick in your ass -- but again, that's taking the fun out of losing yourself in the feminine ecstasy of receiving. It could really just feel like he's jacking off in your asshole, so you'd keep frame, but not let your inner bitch out.</div>
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And that last approach would be a little tight, no pun intended, since it depends on frame. Have you considered getting fucked by someone else? How open is your relationship? It could really help you with this guy to sleep with someone else who is the top/dom while you're free as the wind as a sub/bottom for a night, or even longer. The other night I was with a pectoral-y guy, we established he was more top and I was more bottom, and after fumbling for a bit, we both lay on our backs. I jacked off with an arm around his neck and feeling his pecs, while he fingered me close to my ass but not quite there, pushing more and more firmly until I climaxed, while he jacked himself off with his other hand. The combination of feeling so much masculinity (he had poked his dick close to my ass while in the missionary position too) paired with my orgasm was the first time in a long time I was really 'out' of it after sex. My mind was profoundly blank and I didn't want to move. That's what orgasming should feel like for the feminine. And in your quest to get fucked, you should aim for that kind of experience. Again, it could help you keep frame as a top with this guy to let this out.</div>
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In the off-chance that he's been very curious to top, and you decide you won't bottom with him, you could, as an extreme resort, <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2014/07/how-to-get-free-truvada.html">suggest he top someone else.</a> Since his masculine-source is you, and he wouldn't likely be topping a very masculine guy (or feel the other guy was too masculine if he was doing so), it's not likely he would get attached with his new partner, and it could a) give him an outlet (if he even needs it) and b) increase his dread for you to your advantage, since you suggesting he have sex with someone else might give him light anxiety, which you could fuck away for him daddy-gonna-take-care-of-you style in the worst case. I've encouraged my long-distant, pretty-attached plate to sleep with other guys while we're not together, and it still works out (even though he's holding a decent masculine frame with me -- military, chill, to the point), though he is a little upset to basically know I'm with other guys.</div>
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Hope this is helpful, and definitely let me know what you decide to do, and how it turns out. Pics or it didn't happen!</div>
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This is hard. I don't think they're always so set. But it's important to know what are the dynamics holding attraction so you don't mess up should you decide to try something else. Their being set is kind of an ideal. When you see a twink-y guy with a more alpha guy, you know what's up. Don't forget that <em>most</em> gay guys just jack off with one another, though a masc/fem dynamic can still be held. And fucking the 'wrong way' shouldn't be treated like it would destroy chemistry in all cases. I've fucked a guy for ten minutes, got tired and admitted I wasn't so into topping him, then let him curl me up in his arms while I beat us off touching his huge muscles. What you -want- to do is probably right, if you catch my drift. If your relationship with this guy is really all about that masc/fem chemistry I'd highly consider getting topped by another fellow.</div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-35790627086760628572014-10-19T18:03:00.002-07:002014-10-19T18:04:11.918-07:00A Gay Man's Guide to Taking the Red Pill, 1.0 (Originally Posted on Reddit)<div style="font-family: verdana, arial, helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: small; margin-bottom: 15px !important; margin-top: 5px; padding: 0px;">
Gay Red Piller here. Wonder how I got here sometimes -- coming from a self-feminized existence with the GSA and hating men, to enthusiastically joining the most ill-seen men's locker room on the net! Insert joke about gay men in locker room yeah yeah</div>
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Also, please don't see this as my convincing everyone how great and awesome gay men are for getting boners for their brethren. This isn't a cry for acceptance. This is ideally for other gay Red Pillers to go, "Oh, I see," and maybe, "Yes I've thought that," or, "What? Wrong. My comment will refute this and be upvoted," <em>and</em> it's something interesting for straight guys: there's been a smattering of posts regarding gays in how they facilitate or cockblock men's access to women, and also how gay men often don't let women fly with the pussy pass. (They additionally are not doomed by losing vaginal access by speaking up.)</div>
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How are gay men like straight men or straight women? Why's it important for gay men to take the red pill? How are gay men's Red Pill red flags telling for all guys taking the RP?</div>
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<strong>1. Gay men were also brought up on the Blue Pill Disney romantic fantasy.</strong> Like straight men, they were told they would find a soulmate, and they seek an unconditional mother's love in romantic partners by default. This has to be unlearned. Hookups don't apply.</div>
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<strong>2. Gay men are hypergamous by nature.</strong> If Rational Male has taught me one thing, it's that I get heartbroken like a boy, but I seek a higher status mate as a girl does. I think I find a difference in that, in Esther Vilar's writings, women are portrayed as rational in their seeking beta bucks, while Rollo portrays that they are <em>hard-wired</em> for this type of coldly-calculated thing. I'm not a woman so I can't speak for one, but I think that a gay man would seek wealth in a partner out of laziness; a potential partner's wealth does not stir romantic longing, per se. Gay men might settle for money, especially actor types. Both gay men and straight women have an alpha fucks desire; beta bucks is the default for women, and gay men may or may not marry someone just for their money. BUT, gay men <em>are</em>hypergamous in their search for the manliest man, and this search is only ultimately resolved when they find that man<em>in themselves,</em> which rarely happens. <strong>Seeing yourself as the father figure is the jackpot of gay psychological spiritual sexuality.</strong> I feel a straight guy would also have piece of mind with this mindset, and a lot of books teaching masculinity claim this too (King Warrior Magician Lover; or anything by Jack Donovan).</div>
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<strong>3. Gay men have the sex drive of straight men.</strong> Not news.</div>
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<strong>4. Gay men, innately, ultimately desire submitting to a masculine man, but if they are masculine already, will generally be more interested in having a feminine counterpart exist in their reality, in case they have trouble finding a competing man's masculinity whose manliness floors them into submission.</strong> Here come the down-votes but this is what I see time and time again. Alpha-like guy in his thirties might enjoy busting his nuts on younger willing twinks who're even fun to have around and talk to and who ultimately come to his house to please him (notice the plurality). Insecure skinny beta ultra-feminized gay boy will want a big man to show him the ropes; is the captain of the football team gay yet, or the frowny guy with big forearms in my math class? Bears often like bears; they appear to have the mother and the father in them. In all cases appearance trumps actuality (would see an alpha guy who had a ton of insecurities and emotional roller-coasters equivalent to a woman, but he is one of the guy-est guys I know; feminine guys can be 'fierce' as fuck).</div>
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<strong>4.5. The gay man should therefore aim to be as manly as possible in order to maintain his psychological power and his own respect (I am the man here so I am in control), and to avoid falling head over heels over any guy who doesn't imitate lipstick-wearing individuals.</strong> Yo, it's not just women who gotta watch for those bad RP or natural alphas, but gay men too. No h8ers.</div>
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<strong>5. Gay men, by behaving like women, learn early on not to trust themselves; by regaining masculinity, they accept themselves more as individuals capable of original thought and who don't need others' validation.</strong> This was such a huge leap for me. By becoming like a man instead of turning my lower lip out whenever I didn't know something or couldn't make a decision for myself, when I <em>act manly,</em> I find my mind thinking, <em>Wait, I am capable of solving this problem, I can be a leader, I can be the oak tree and not the court jester I am portrayed as in film and TV.</em> This has made me question femininity hugely. This point is also a leap from the "accept your femininity and you will suddenly feel better because that's who you really are anyway" stuff told to gay men. Granted I will always be an arts guy, I think, with an interest in the emotional and the spiritual that could make a new age person jealous, and I have to put an effort to enjoy sports. Maybe TRP will guide me to more masculine interests if they're even necessary; need to explore this a bit more. Definitely more interested in money now, which I may have previously associated with men and being bad.</div>
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<strong>6. Gay men, when feminine with their partners or other gay men, almost always use this as a means of romantic/sexual manipulation.</strong> Saying "Pleeeease can I?" and other childlike, "feminine" behaviors are almost always manipulative (how to treat an orbiter). One time I was at a house party in San Francisco, and this huge, tall, fat gay man, who was the host, was cornering me in his house for sex. I am furiously against fake rape accusations and he didn't rape me, but honestly, I was scared out of my wits and felt like a could-be actual rape victim. What tactics did I use to get out? I said "I'm sorrryyyy but I have to goooo" and made big droopy eyes and sad-face mouth. He beneficently sighed, like, <em>I guess this poor, young, pretty fit, early 20s guy just can't read sexual signals, and he's a precious little thing that needs to be cared for and it is my responsibility as The Man to see to it that this adult-child isn't hurt by the world, poor dear thing.</em> Women are not not actually like that and don't need that. Identify when any female pulls this BS on you. Women never get like this with gay men, if anything they are just sassy, because gay men see through that. Meanwhile, straight men are often women's unsuspecting babysitters.</div>
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<strong>7. Taking the red pill ultimately means, for gay men, to aggressively develop an able body (not just for aesthetic purposes...I guess), figure out what it means to be a man and how to achieve it, be manly, figure out how to make that dough, and to realize that no other guy can love you like you want to be loved.</strong> Masculinity, muscles, money = my new mantra.</div>
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You're ready for him. Why isn't he having it with you?<br />
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<b>1. You're showing too much interest</b><br />
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We all want what we can't have, because if it doesn't want us, then it must be really awesome and better than us! This is how we think. Also, showing too much interest <i>can</i> be creepy. The sooner you stop back-to-back texting him, the more classy you can appear.<br />
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<b>2. You don't rock the clothes (yet!)</b><br />
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Nothing says confidence like great taste in clothes that show off your body. Feeling good enough about yourself to show off is also an aphrodisiac.<br />
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<b>3. You don't have the body (yet!)</b><br />
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Seriously, <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2014/05/to-fat-guy-who-thinks-he-has-chance-to.html">work out</a>. Your body has ONE JOB.<br />
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<b>4. You're nervous or socially awkward</b><br />
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Dating and mating is about finding the strongest and worthiest mate, when it comes to gay men. These traits, however, reek of powerlessness and lack of confidence. Fake it 'til you make it!<br />
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<b>5. He's in love with someone else.</b><br />
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Oh, please.<br />
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But don't worry! We'll help you be a player beast so your feelings never have to be outcome-independent on one guy again -- because seriously, that's an attraction killer, as we mentioned, and most importantly, it's just not healthy.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-91615400537506219352014-09-27T11:35:00.000-07:002014-09-27T11:52:43.726-07:0013 Reasons Why Getting a Boyfriend is Hard<center>
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Let's be real -- getting a boyfriend isn't a cakewalk. If it were, we wouldn't be here right now, delineating all the ways we can manage to get the guy! Pessimism is no one's greatest asset, but it's important to know exactly what we're dealing with as we accrue more knowledge as to what a guy looks for in us, and what we should be looking for in a guy.<br />
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<b>1. There is so much competition for gay men (especially in major cities)</b><br />
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If you live in a city like New York or San Francisco and someone were to ask you, "Who's the hottest gay guy in your area?" you might laugh, or stare at them with deep concern for their mental wellbeing. The fact is that cities like these aren't like your typical suburban high school, where only a handful of guys are out, <i>if any</i>, and when one guy gets bulging biceps, everyone knows, and he's the talk of the town. On the US coasts, a guy with muscles is a guy a dozen. You use the word "eligible" strictly when you're being ironic. Even if someone you like also liked you, he might think, "Hmm...well, there must be more!" or... "Wow... if I can get <i>him</i>, I wonder who <i>else</i> I can get!"<br />
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<b>2. We don't have the experience our straight peers have (since they 'came out' way before we did)</b><br />
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This one's a doozie. Dating experience is important for confidence in dating, confidence in ourselves, and familiarity with 'how these things play out' is so important to maintain composure and have realistic expectations. Watch this reason resurface in the following ones.<br />
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<b>3. We're brought up with a poor idea of how love works</b><br />
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We think we'll find someone, our "soul mate," and that we suddenly we will be completely understood and loved. It felt like that with a best friend in our pasts, so love must turn out the same way, right? The media, the movies, even our family reassure us that this fantasy reencounter will happen. The media does it because it sells, and our family tells us this lie not to deceive us, but because they want us to feel safe and reassured, despite the reality. Relationships are hard work, and dating isn't a cakewalk. It often involves staring at a phone hoping we'll get a text back, and dates you politely sit through with a guy who didn't look quite like his Tinder pictures.<br />
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<b>4. Not understanding the rules of the Sexual Marketplace</b><br />
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It's not even that much of forbidden knowledge; it's just that it's difficult to talk about, and often joked about (she's reaching her early 30s, uh oh!) and so we don't realize how much these rules apply to <i>us </i>individually. <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2014/05/to-fat-guy-who-thinks-he-has-chance-to.html">We actually begin to <i>believe</i> that fat or old people are hot deep down inside</a> and that it's what inside that matters, and it's what's inside (<i>not out!</i>) that facilitate 'love at first sight' and a long-term relationship. These bad thoughts leads to poor habits, entitlement, thinking guys are in our range when they're not, and selfish behavior in relationships.<br />
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<b>5. Social anxiety from being a gay outcast earlier in life affects formulation of romantic/sexual relationships</b><br />
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If you're shy with people, chances are you're gonna be shy when you fall for someone, <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2013/12/basics-on-getting-guy-chase-and-sexual.html">which can be a great advantage or a great disadvantage, depending on whether you're the masculine or feminine on in your relationship</a>. Generally, being shy is not so great, though. Guys in this situation need more experience with people, perhaps even so before opening up to the dating world. (Our advice: Don't fall so hard! This can be avoided by <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/why_you_must_date_many_guys.html">dating many guys at once</a> -- this is a must for long-term success!)<br />
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<b>6. Still being in the closet (you or him -- either way, not so helpful)</b><br />
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Whether it's you or him in the closet, either way it's not an ideal place from which to have a relationship. Secretive dates can be fun for one second, but it becomes a pain when how covert you can be is misunderstood or asks for way too much from either of you.<br />
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<b>7. Parents</b><br />
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Parents or a family that's not cool with the whole gay thing, yours or his, can get in the way, if you're trying to have a very traditional LTR where you both meet each other's parents, etc. By "parents" we aren't talking about dorky parents who embarrass you. If your guy really likes you, he'd find your parents' corny jokes adorable! (If you're still in high school, this may be hard to understand.)<br />
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<b>8. Not understanding how to deal with game-playing</b><br />
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When you get a text or an email from a guy you're interested in, it's always best to at least slightly delay your response time. That way, you don't seem so clingy or obsessed with him, which keeps him from wanting to get rid of you, and he maintains the illusion that you have many other options -- you may even be texting and <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2014/05/dating-and-facebook-likes-its-thing.html">otherwise electronically flirting with other guys</a> (you'd better be!).<br />
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<b>9. We don't know how to 'market' ourselves and think 'being ourselves' is the way to go</b><br />
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Because we're encouraged to act like 'queens' by celebrities, the media, and our female friends, many gay men are not comfortable in their masculinity which ironically is what all gay men want in a partner.<br />
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<b>10. We don't know what other gay men want</b><br />
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What your crush ideally wants (and what you want!): a tall, handsome, strong (internally and externally), funny, wealthy guy who knows exactly how I'm feeling, can always take a hint, always says exactly the right thing, is cool with all of 'my flaws' (i.e. selfishness and bad habits I'm not willing to revoke), who won't get fat when he's older and who thinks I'm funny and amazing and wonderful just the way I am (i.e. accepts my laziness).<br />
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What your crush thinks he wants (and what you think you want): A really nice guy who's really understanding.<br />
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What your crush is hard-wired by nature to want (and you're no exception): A guy who's out of your league but likes you, kind of, anyway, and lets you be on his list of numbers, or maybe even boyfriends, though you always suspect he's got something else going on.<br />
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<b>11. We haven't had practice dealing with our own clinginess</b><br />
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Our girlfriends might learn right away maybe when they're 10 that boys run when girls chase back, so we have to not only learn the games, but habituate them, too! Knowing the difference between energetically saying something really clever or showing way too much interest is important and hard to differentiate when you think you've got a <i>real </i>catch.<br />
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<b>12. It's not about wanting a boyfriend or the end result</b><br />
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This mentality can always lead to disaster, especially on or before the first date!<br />
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<b>13. Being too nice</b><br />
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Our culture over-estimates how far niceness can take us, and we often forget that we can be blindly taken advantage of even by those who we feel we can trust the most.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-8565333556374949942014-09-27T08:47:00.002-07:002014-09-27T08:51:53.962-07:005 Reasons Why Male Birth Control Will be TerrificThe news is out: Men will now have control over whether or not their females have access to their sperm by 2017.<br />
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Why this is amazing news for men:<br />
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<b>1. You'll know it's not your kid.</b><br />
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Women can be prevented from pretending they got pregnant by their husbands, when they actually have another guy's child. This will help men avoid raising a child that isn't his, and keep them from having to pay child support / alimony (and it will give them ample time to plan an exit strategy if he <i>is</i> married). Suck it, paternity fraud.<br />
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<b>2. Men can no longer be tricked into having unwanted children.</b><br />
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Having kids had always been solely a woman's decision, since her 'forgetting' to take birth control often accounts for many unwanted pregnancies. (Since condoms take away a lot of the pleasure, they often aren't used, and this trick is easier to pull by women, who often are about to hit the wall, or who want a sucker-guy's financial support.)<br />
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<b>3. You do it <i>once</i>, and then you can undo it whenever you like.</b><br />
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Unlike female birth control which needs to be taken monthly, only one stopper is needed to keep your little-yous from entering a lady's eggs and thus changing your life.<br />
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<b>4. High-profile men, rich men, and male celebrities no longer have to worry about their one night stands carrying babies and receiving monthly payments until death.</b><br />
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It is a common practice for NBA men to flush condoms down the toilet immediately after sex with fangirls so they don't have to worry about becoming a parent or a dent in their income. They can now enjoy sex without the hassle of procreating, along with the pleasure of sex without a condom.<br />
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<b>5. If (when) the feminists complain about it, their tyranny will be obvious.</b><br />
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And we will revolt.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-61456719187441421092014-09-24T13:32:00.003-07:002014-09-24T13:39:00.634-07:00Emma Watson's Speech Marks the Beginning of the End of FeminismEmma Watson's organization she spoke for's stance: Getting men to help women with their problems.<br />
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Uh...okay.<br />
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Emma Watson's speech: Here are some areas where men also have problems.<br />
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Whoa. That was powerful. Good for Emma for not buying the baloney that women have it all bad.<br />
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While some bloggers are complaining that Watson basically appealed to "the oppressors" to help, there are a few things to be said about that:<br />
1) they are not the oppressors and women have it much better than men in the first world economically, legislatively, and on a food-to-mouth basis (read <a href="http://dontmarry.files.wordpress.com/2008/08/the_manipulated_man.pdf">Esther Vilar's "The Manipulated Man"</a> in case you don't already know this).<br />
2) It's about goddamn time that men KNOW that they have the shorter end of the stick in many, many cases.<br />
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What's fantastic is that now on a wide scale, men know they have it bad in some things. What's crazy is that <i>the majority of men have no idea</i>. They automatically see women as these helpless, divine creatures that need their assistance, while the women turn around and say they do not want to be portrayed in the media like that any longer (while continuing to use this facade in order to get what they want anyway such as by expanding the meaning of rape so non-violent rape somehow counts as rape and can put men in jail for deciding badly for her; see feminism).<br />
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So hopefully this actually turns into an actual gender equality thing.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-74765706356282459012014-09-17T18:22:00.001-07:002014-09-17T18:29:15.392-07:00Why Orange is the New Black Lesbian Writer Divorce is a Bad Example for Men, Women, GaysOf COURSE when you find out you're a lesbian, when you fall for another girl while in a marriage with someone else, you NATURALLY send the husband packing from the apartment AND KEEP THE RING.<br />
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"But he gave it to her!"<br />
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HE SURE DID. And how many months of salary it must have been! Good thing she can keep it for the memories. If not, why not sell it! He's not keeping it, anyway!<br />
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I was so flustered to read all these cheeky articles about a writer discovering she is gay, dating a girl at work, and THEN telling her husband the news AND THAT HE HAS TO LEAVE.<br />
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It's not even the arguable cheating that sends me off. If feminists are arguing for gender equality, then please dream up the following situation with me:<br />
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A guy discovers that he is not in love with his wife. In fact, he's having a thing with that other guy at his start-up workplace. He has money, but, he suggests that she find another place to live. And yeah he's gonna keep the ring she gave him because he's, uh, the sentimental type. Thanks for the memories though! You're a sweetheart, you. And you're employed, ex-wife, so that shouldn't be a problem either.<br />
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Good for her for discovering she's gay and that she's found her 'soul mate', or one of many to come. Now, can she do the adult thing where she excuses herself from this unsuspecting, poor man's life? "I just found out that I'm not for you, that someone else is, and this is totally not your fault, so I'll be leaving and if it's not rude of me, you can keep the ring, because I'm not a royal ass." That would be some fucking chivalry right there. Oh wait, that's a guy word. Uh. Gentlewomanliness? Compassion? Someone help me out here.<br />
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The day we stop seeing female sovereignty as "girl power!" will be a good fucking day.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-77092319405104364062014-09-17T09:19:00.000-07:002015-04-01T23:24:43.590-07:00Why Male Femininity is Fundamental to Gay SexThis blog post is actually NOT a cry to 'tolerate' and open-heartedly 'accept' femininity in gay men.<br />
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I agree with Jack Donovan's point that <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2013/12/be-man-how-chasing-person-you-like-can.html">queeny behavior in the gay community is overdone</a>, mostly a show and not necessarily a demonstration of a gay person's true self, and that the benefits of a gay guy finding his 'real manly self' are so numerous that a book could be entirely devoted to the subject (actually it has been; "Androphila" by Donovan). It's often difficult for many gay men to come to terms with this since we are basically taught and conditioned by women and fellow gay men that sassiness and the most up-to-date diss are what constitute our interpersonal identity, but after the first heartbreak (my observation; didn't read that from Donovan), we often settle more into our real selves.<br />
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So a middle class gay guy's external identity looks something like this from birth through adult-olescence:<br />
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Vaguely masculine and feminine in youth --> Ultra-feminine I-am-gay-here-me-roar stage --> Masculinity is attempted<br />
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Donovan firmly believes not only that men regardless of sexual orientation can and should act like men, but that even in the bedroom, there is no need for one partner to become, in an emotional or energetic sense, the feminine counterpart. <a href="http://gay-pua.blogspot.com/2013/12/basics-on-getting-guy-chase-and-sexual.html">His point, however, is completely against the law of sexual polarity</a>. By that I don't mean 'this is not allowed and I won't permit it'; what I mean is that sex doesn't work, sex is not sexual without this dual polarity.<br />
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David Deida in his book "The Way of the Superior Man" explicitly states, on the outset of the book, that in any kind of sexual encounter, heterosexual or homosexual, masculine and feminine roles <i>must </i>be played by the two respective partners. If this polarity didn't exist there could still be affection, there could still be camaraderie, but the longing and desire would completely dissolve.<br />
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My own experiences have always been in line with Deida's outlook. When two men meet on a bed, one of them has to carry the masculine role, and the other inevitably, in some form or another, a role which <i>facilitates that masculinity</i> (that is, a feminine one). Two masculine beings can't simply be together carnally and be energetically (and audibly) fluid. The temporary 'loss' of one's masculinity however doesn't have to have negative implications; I completely agree with Donovan's statement in his book "Androphilia" that a man's role in the bedroom is not a good determinant of his overall masculinity.<br />
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Gay men are different from straight men and a lot more like their female peers in that they prefer masculinity in a sexual partner. <b><u>But gay men are a lot like straight males in that, when demonstrating their masculinity in a sexual way, THEY HIGHLY PREFER FEMININE FEEDBACK.</u></b> This feminine feedback isn't, or rather doesn't have to be, the show-off display of "I'm a <i>queen!</i>" that Donovan seems sure that gay femininity in bed is in all cases.<br />
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My early college years consisted of finding the most muscular alpha males I could and copulating with them profusely -- mostly men in their 40s' prime with incredible New York bodies. All they had to do was put a hand on my waist, puff their chest, press up against me, and as my voice register went up with every subsequent moan of pleasure, I figured there was no way I had it in me to be a top.<br />
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That is, until I had some close encounters in the twink zone.<br />
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I had gotten somewhat in touch with my masculine sexual polarity -- the other side of my internal, hard-wired sexual magnet -- when I walked up to a muscular (of course) boy at a party, drunk out of my mind, and we immediately began making out. In the guest bedroom I found myself on top of him and had a weird urge to penetrate him and "give him my seed," to quote a message from my subconscious. Mentioning this to him, a certain kind of smile grew on his face that I hadn't seen much in other boys during intimacy, except sometimes from my boyfriend back in high school. "Do you have a condom?" he asked.<br />
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<i>Huh? </i>I wondered. <i>Gay muscular guys can be feminine during sex? More-so than me? What's going on?</i><br />
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At some point I figured out that I had both (potential) masculine and feminine super-powers and that either was summoned based on my chemistry with the other guy. I've flat out told a buff, handsome but <i>sort of</i> feminine guy part-way through gaming him -- or being gamed by him, I wasn't sure -- "You know, I have <i>no </i>idea who's the dominant one here." It made good conversation at the bar-club, but not great sex.<br />
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This became increasingly apparent to me up to the point that, even when a guy was initiating contact, rubbing his leg up against mine in public to elicit a boner, and asking me to his room (because "taking me home" doesn't fit his vibe), his slight femininity or body size/structure made it clear that I was to do the man's work on his sheets. There is nothing more satisfying than penetrating a guy or otherwise demonstrating masculinity to him and hearing his high cries of pleasure and his desire to come closer; it is enough to drive any top or vers guy completely mad and render him down towards a blissful bunny-rabbit level of consciousness, unless of course it's overdone and he's performing for an invisible yas-crowd.<br />
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Masculine and feminine polarity is so hot because it's a chase that doesn't have an end. The guy in the masculine role is operating completely from his dick and balls, finding himself exclusively interested in his male partner's waist, ass, and in throwing his boy-plaything around, wanting nothing more but to squirt his seed into the other guy to the point where the boy coughs it out of his mouth, or is at least left partially immobile. A guy in the feminine role will be interested in his partner's musculature (although that arguably goes both ways), his partner's broad shoulders and large back, his partner's chest, low voice, and basically upper body (and legs help a lot). The man in the male role is providing value through his horny abandon, and the guy in the feminine role provides value with his attractive but manageable body, and beckons with moans for the big boy to please give him one more kiss. The masculine role channels from the waist, and the feminine role receives the masculine into his chest, releasing oxytocin, when he's with a properly masculine dick-provider. <b>A healthy guy in the masculine role LIKES when his masculinity is properly received, because it's indicating that he's doing his job.</b><br />
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The providing of affection in return from the masculine partner helps the attraction, but a huge mistake is for the masculine to return feminine feedback to his temporarily feminine partner. A cry to come together isn't necessarily satisfied by answering the plea. Two times did hulking guys return my high cries of indulgence by enthusiastically matching my high pitch, instead of for example growling. Nope. The deal breaker here isn't that it's a femininity overload; it's that now two of us are screaming for daddy, but, where did daddy go? I'm not daddy tonight.<br />
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And what happens when two men use all their efforts to avoid sounding like eunichs in the bedroom? Generally, someone will be the bottom, or one person will find their hands saddling on the other's waist while the other finds preference in the other's arms and shoulders, completing the masculine-feminine circuitry despite the no-homo-ing. If not, it's a wank and a horniness reliever that holds no energetic potential. It's sex with a friend in the dullest way and it's just not as hot. No one's masculinity was rewarded, no one's was received; we just sent it off into the air, together, kinda.<br />
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Tops (or rather, when you are a top -- everyone's got both circuitries) channel sexuality through horniness, dominance, and objectifying his partner, while more or less taking care that his bottom doesn't end up in the ER. Bottoms receive masculine sexual energy and get off on receiving their partner's masculine gift. Many bottoms will tell you it's not the actual dick that pleases them as much as the overall feeling of submitting to a guy.<br />
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The next time a wrapped-up dick enters you, let your voice go to its naturally higher register so it can resonate with the heart muscles, where your partner's energy is going anyway. If you're a top, it's okay to judge if your partner starts sounding like a lady (you can't help a judgment), but if you're adequately masculine, you will feel the reward of your keep's moans of pleasure. When you get a low grunt, it's kind of okay; the worst thing that can happen is your partner's masculinity gets the best of you. Then you won't wanna be left out from getting entered.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-57388851396372325902014-06-06T14:15:00.000-07:002014-06-06T14:16:26.483-07:00A Word on Discussion of Controversial Topics<span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">If someone makes a 'silly' question or statement, like...</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">"Why should we let the immigrants stay?"</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">"I don't think the killer guy was a misogynist."</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">"Why do gay people have to hold hands in public?"</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">"I'm not even going to ADDRESS that OUTRAGEOUS misogynist/homoph</span><span class="text_exposed_show" style="background-color: white; color: #37404e; display: inline; font-family: Helvetica, Arial, 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">obic/transphobic/racist statement/question."<br />"Up yours."<br /><br />If someone makes a question or statement that is not in line with your views, even if most people would agree that that person is an idiot, then make your point against theirs, if they posit any. If they don't back up what they say, make your points anyway. If you think making your points will not change their mind (e.g., if they are making a rhetorical insult), then why are you talking to them? Maybe they would listen, because people listen to even-sounding people.<br /><br />Also, scary, but, maybe you don't have any points, or the points by the other side are weirdly on-point, and that's why you are going from discussing to your Plan B. Not something we like to admit, but wouldn't you appreciate it if a particularly unreasonable person with opposing viewpoints to yours let that thought cross their own mind? You would because it would collectively bring you to a Greater Understanding.<br /><br />I'm not saying this because I necessarily think everyone should be nice and kumbaya. But how else would progress even be made if we don't channel our debate-fury into intellectual ammo instead of "omg, you're dumb, congrats on your inferiority because you are dumb and Don't Understand, even though I don't believe in superiority/inferiority lol"? Liberal views like what I and a lot of others I know hold are often considered RADICAL in other, if not MOST, places. Give your viewpoint some good PR, in case you are actually invested in defending the fate of [group of living beings / idea].</span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-82355984875292619892014-05-21T09:33:00.002-07:002014-05-21T09:47:52.258-07:00The Truth About Self-EsteemWe hear often that the most important thing in love, relationships, and perhaps even in life, is <b>to love yourself</b>.<br />
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"You might be overweight, but the most important thing is to love yourself."<br />
"You can't manifest anything if you don't love yourself first."<br />
"I would much rather love myself than have a nice body."<br />
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It is reasonable to want to have self-respect and esteem before undertaking any other lifelong activity or habit (e.g. the gym), or going out further into the world, meeting people more unlike ourselves with new expectations, away from what we're familiar with.<br />
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But something about <b>THE NATURE OF LOVE AND SELF-LOVE</b> needs to be taken into account before we endeavor to love ourselves.<br />
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We love ourselves the same way we love other people.<br />
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We love other people, or are fascinated by them, when at first sight they appear to be beings with a spark in their eye, who are smart enough to remain attractive, and display a promising radiance, beneficial to both you and them. A person who is obviously strong from many hours toiling at the gym receives far more automatic respect than someone who advertises they are fast food fanatics.<br />
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And of course, achievements are a huge love-<b>magnet</b>. But someone can have had a million achievements, and be the worst at confidently stating what he's done, so he is not easy to regard highly. Most people with great achievements <i>do</i> garner greater confidence as a result, but ironically it is <i>not</i> the achievements themselves that make these individuals so interpersonally desirable, but <i>rather</i> the <i>increased and intoxicating confidence</i> that occurs as a result.<br />
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Some people with little to no achievements somehow manage to run about the world with their head held up high, and they advertise <i>the ability to take on the world</i>, and everyone loves them as a result. These people are usually younger folk, because an older person who hasn't achieved much will have a harder time convincing others.<br />
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When we fall in love or find ourselves greatly admiring someone else, <b>our love magnetizes towards them</b> because of these qualities they <b>show</b>. <u>They not only display these personality and achievement qualities to others, but also themselves.</u><br />
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<b>Our love's expectations for others are the same expectations our love has for ourselves.</b> But in order to discover what exactly that love is, we have to see that love for what it is. Love in this since is not appreciation or gratitude. It is not polite or sacrificial. It is impactful enough that we want to be like the person we see, or want to be with them. It is infatuation, admiration, desire, and envy.<br />
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<u style="font-weight: bold;">When we gain these charismatic and high-achieving characteristics, whether through birth or struggle, we will automatically love ourselves.</u> Whether it's a new haircut, a raise, a new clothing style, a better home (or cleaner room), a perfected or fun dialect -- all of these things contribute to <i>magnetizing</i> our love, and we <i>automatically love ourselves more </i>as a result, with no emotional effort on our part. It just happens!<br />
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<b style="text-decoration: underline;">Things that are lovable are easy to love -- we can't help loving them.</b> This includes ourselves. Make yourself easy to love, and your love will rush towards yourself like mad. At the same time, <b>things that are not lovable are difficult to love, if not impossible to</b>. If we must appreciate someone or something for whatever reason, the best we can do is ignore the unlovable aspect.<br />
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<b><u>Love is not a choice.</u></b> When we fall in love, it is definitely not a choice.* It is the same with loving oneself. We can "choose" to love ourselves, but this is a purely intellectual endeavor, and does not stir our love, though it may stir other aspects of our insides. Coming to true self love in the most profound sense is only achieved by an envisioning of <b>who we could be</b>, and after an objective look at where we are with ourselves (physically, financially, emotionally) and what we desire to change. <b>We have to earn the love of others, and we have to earn our own love, too.</b><br />
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Confidence breeds confidence. Success breeds success. An amazing body will have us rushing to dress ourselves in amazing clothes. An amazing self-image will push us to get the best living and economic situation for ourselves. <b>One step towards a more lovable you opens more doors for a more lovable you.</b><br />
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<b><u>Most people block out this reasoning because everyone wants to be inherently lovable under all circumstances.</u></b> Newborns and infants who come into the world helpless and in need of nurturing, attention, affection, and caring ARE worthy of this unconditional love, however. But once we grow up, our love is selective about who it latches onto -- <i>it's even selective about loving ourselves or not</i>. Our love is choosy about how it feels about us, the same way our love is choosy about who we'd like to date.<br />
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<b><u>Our love's main purpose is to rush towards those with the highest survival and replication value.</u></b> We automatically admire the strong man, some people lust over large breasts, we automatically take into higher account someone speaking with a deeper tone, we prefer the company of popular (but nice) people instead of negative loners, when someone sends us a needy text message we grimace, we magnetize towards tall people in social situations, because in ancient times, these actions were essential to survive. Today we have government safety cushions, technology, biweekly paychecks, and grocery stores to help us survive, but our nervous system's discretion -- that is, our love's discretion -- has not changed. <b>The field is different, but the game is the same.</b><br />
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What can you do to make yourself more lovable today?<br />
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*In the moment, falling in love is out of our control, but, with self-improvement and efforts at a large pool of dating options ahead of time, we can prevent premature attachment to an individual who may not love us back.<br />
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<br />Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11069039535264027315noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2048528753748276269.post-68880885336746191282014-05-17T12:37:00.006-07:002014-05-17T12:47:34.365-07:00Number One Rule of PUA: Do Not Talk About PUA and Demonstrating Low Social ValueTalking about PUA outside of forums and fellow real-life Pick Up Artists should be a big NO. It should be this way <i>for a few reasons</i>, and the one of utmost importance might <i>not</i> be the one that you're thinking.<br />
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This goes for ALL GUYS interested in or a part of PUA in any way.<br />
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Of course, you might be thinking that what I mean is, "Don't tell anyone that you're 'gaming' them, or that you read pick-up tactics online and then perform them when you're trying to pick them up, because it will be <i>awkward</i> since they'll <i>know what you're up to</i>." That's not exactly what I mean, although that is definitely something to consider when trying to earn a hottie's trust in the comfort stage of your pickup.<br />
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Like nerds who get really wrapped up in a video game they incessantly discuss with friends, i.e. nerds with particularly low social skills or low social experience, what tends to happen is that aspects of game or game itself begins to be referred <i>as if</i> <i>everyone else</i> you met knew what you were talking about, when they don't. <b><u>This is a huge social devaluation of yourself, i.e., it makes you look like a huge loser.</u></b><br />
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I'll formulate a harmless example and then lead into instances I have seen master PUAs make this blunder on public YouTube videos still available to the general public (if you have no idea what "master PUA" is, they're just semi-famous dudes who have a lot of experience picking up successfully).<br />
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Imagine you are banging a beautiful blond with amazing skin who is, admittedly, a little twinky, but has come to love your new musculature and ignites your newly discovered instinct to protect with his toned but limber build. (If you're straight pretend it's a chick.) He is obedient and he arouses a cocktail of hormones and emotions from you without instilling oneitis from you. Ahem, anyway, you are dining with his family, and you have brought along your nine year old brother; you're both staying at his family's over a long weekend. The conversation is settling, and your boy toy Brendan (let's call him) is brushing his leg against yours, his breath noticeably shallower, and he's wondering how you're going to fuck him this time because you've made damn sure sex is not a predictable hurtle with him. Your in-laws say something like, "Glad you guys just graduated, because tuition is on the rise!" and your brother says, "Yeah, it's over 9000!" and beams you with a smirk you are obliged to return.<br />
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Your in-laws and boyfriend go, ".......haha....ha..?" and turn to you for a light explanation, so they can genuinely give a hearty laugh with your sibling. You find yourself scratching the back of your head, managing a laugh, and explaining what an internet meme is, why your brother knows it, and why it's at all funny (if you don't know what it is, you're not missing anything, and neither was anyone at that table, as they'll come to learn).<br />
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A harmless example. He's nine for God's sake, and this instance probably won't stop Brendan from monitoring condom/lube count before your routine tip-toeing into his bedroom. <i>But what if it's a PUA doing the same thing -- and a so-called MASTER one, at that?</i><br />
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Allow me to piece together instances I have seen this take place, <i>by so-called master PUAs</i>. This is really a shame because I have come to really admire these dudes, but Neil Strauss, author of <i>The Game</i>, and Tyler from Real Social Dynamics have pulled this. Strauss, in <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7p4hZMOfrw" target="_blank">his Jimmy Kimmel Live interview</a>, is obviously being grilled about his magical abilities to pick up women, a difficult and unenviable position for any guy to be put into -- imagine getting asked, "So, tell me more about your elusive ability to be the best at women, and better than anyone else here, including that really good-looking guy over there, me, and that guy making out with that woman. Say, can you pick her up?" etc. In fact Kimmel asks Strauss if he can pick up Jessica Alba who is right at his side. Strauss laughs and retorts, "Well, I don't know talk show game."<br />
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Silence.<br />
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Then slowly Kimmel and Alba put together the nerd lingo that Strauss is using. "Ah," they visibly think. "He uses 'game' as a thing. It's how they speak, when they configure how to pick up elusive women and get that elusive sex they work so hard for. That's nice." If you squirmed at least a little when that came out of Neil's mouth, <i>maybe</i> your anxiety is a little high, but <i>MAYBE</i> you have the social intelligence to know that <b><u>in-private lingo with anyone else actually demonstrates low social value</u></b> because, as far as anyone else knows, you're conniving with other losers who have to implement complicated-sounding strategies to achieve things (sex) that others can do without the planning and mental schema you use.<br />
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Tyler has an in-field video (translation: a live YouTube video of him picking up women to prove his worth to guys wondering if they should take his advice) where he has a chick laughing outside a club. He's demonstrating no fear by literally clinging onto her, which she takes humor in, but what comes out of his mouth sent a chill down my spine. "Ahhhh, don't leeeeave me!" he says (lol -- that's not the bad part). "You just can't, I'm PUA!"<br />
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The grueling part of this phrase is that it is so obvious to anyone, whether they know what PUA is or they think it stands for Pet Uprising Association, is that the person saying it thinks it makes them cool as shit. The natural mental response is, "Uh, that's not cool as shit, I don't even know what that is," or, "Uh, being a self-proclaimed Pick-Up Artist doesn't make you cool as shit [which is true, guys], but maybe it does with your group of loser friends." Even if someone <i>does</i> think being a PUA is cool, phrasing it like that is such an awkward self-promoting tactic that even the likest mind will backwards-rationalize that you're a moron for saying that.<br />
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Imagine at a college reunion, that some students are welcomed with 'Cum Laude Badges,' and some are not. Whether or not you would've earned one, picture three friends with the badges about to get their picture taken, when a fourth good friend rushes into the picture, grabs one of their wastes, and utters, "Ahh, please let me in too, I'm CLB!"<br />
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Uh...you're <i>what</i>, bro?<br />
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Visibly painting yourself into an elite group is just not the way to sell your higher value to other people. If you're part of the in crowd, you will not need to advertise it. Simple as that.
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