5 Reasons He's Not That Into You (Besides "Type")

You're ready for him. Why isn't he having it with you?


1. You're showing too much interest

We all want what we can't have, because if it doesn't want us, then it must be really awesome and better than us! This is how we think. Also, showing too much interest can be creepy. The sooner you stop back-to-back texting him, the more classy you can appear.


2. You don't rock the clothes (yet!)

Nothing says confidence like great taste in clothes that show off your body. Feeling good enough about yourself to show off is also an aphrodisiac.


3. You don't have the body (yet!)

Seriously, work out. Your body has ONE JOB.


4. You're nervous or socially awkward

Dating and mating is about finding the strongest and worthiest mate, when it comes to gay men. These traits, however, reek of powerlessness and lack of confidence. Fake it 'til you make it!


5. He's in love with someone else.

Oh, please.


But don't worry! We'll help you be a player beast so your feelings never have to be outcome-independent on one guy again -- because seriously, that's an attraction killer, as we mentioned, and most importantly, it's just not healthy.

A Word on Discussion of Controversial Topics

If someone makes a 'silly' question or statement, like...
"Why should we let the immigrants stay?"
"I don't think the killer guy was a misogynist."
"Why do gay people have to hold hands in public?"

...I feel like the following ways of addressing them, which I have actually seen people I (had) consider(ed) smart use, are ineffective:
"I'm not even going to ADDRESS that OUTRAGEOUS misogynist/homophobic/transphobic/racist statement/question."
"Up yours."

If someone makes a question or statement that is not in line with your views, even if most people would agree that that person is an idiot, then make your point against theirs, if they posit any. If they don't back up what they say, make your points anyway. If you think making your points will not change their mind (e.g., if they are making a rhetorical insult), then why are you talking to them? Maybe they would listen, because people listen to even-sounding people.

Also, scary, but, maybe you don't have any points, or the points by the other side are weirdly on-point, and that's why you are going from discussing to your Plan B. Not something we like to admit, but wouldn't you appreciate it if a particularly unreasonable person with opposing viewpoints to yours let that thought cross their own mind? You would because it would collectively bring you to a Greater Understanding.

I'm not saying this because I necessarily think everyone should be nice and kumbaya. But how else would progress even be made if we don't channel our debate-fury into intellectual ammo instead of "omg, you're dumb, congrats on your inferiority because you are dumb and Don't Understand, even though I don't believe in superiority/inferiority lol"? Liberal views like what I and a lot of others I know hold are often considered RADICAL in other, if not MOST, places. Give your viewpoint some good PR, in case you are actually invested in defending the fate of [group of living beings / idea].